[FEA]: Enable getting headers from CTK or other 1st party libs

[rwgk]

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cuda.pathfinder

Is your feature request related to a problem? Please describe.

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This is a generalization of #823

Describe the solution you'd like

Possibly:

cuda.pathfinder.find_nvidia_header_dir(libname)
cuda.pathfinder.find_nvidia_header(...)

Describe alternatives you've considered

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[rwgk]

Relevant discussion: #661 (comment)